When you place a judgement on someone you or define them by rigorous criteria you limit who that person can be within your life. Why would anyone do this?
After an intimate conversation in which someone has endeavored to truly get to know you is it wrong to feel bereft of their company when they do not seek you out again? Is it wrong to assume they cared in the first place?
Assumptions are troublesome things. The woe they cause in the form of self-doubt is as destructive as any instrument of doom. Life would be so much easier if only people spoke plainly and left you no room to wonder at their intent.